True love

Some view pts to share with respect to the "Buddhist perspective of true love" talk which find rather interesting and some which is inline with my thoughts . . .

Fundamental doctrine of Buddhism is on the fact of impermanence. 万法缘起性空. Nothing in these world is everlasting and nothing in this world is enduring. All subject to change. But having said that, life is full of chances and variables. Mundane love is impermanence but single hood is also impermanence. Without proper cultivations, both will not free us from suffering.

Romance as brought out by the speaker causes attachments which leads to sufferings. Its the ultimate truth. But just like a butcher knife could be used to kill and also used to feed. Using romance, we can develop personal love into universal love. From a conditioned love into an unconditioned love.

Not many are born from great vows and thus we need to cultivate ourselves from our selfish personal romance to great universal love. Personal romance is a good training ground for future's compassion for all beings.

To me as well as from the speaker's sharing, there is no such things as "love at first sight". I personally feels there is only possible to have interest in first sight, and its definitely not a strong interest. Its impossible to like something without knowing something. For example, my inclination is into people having high energy level. But that is only the root to advance the interest. After knowing and working with that someone, positive traits like strong willed and character are something that will advance the interest. But still, its just interest. . .

Something that are advocated by the speaker which I agreed with four limbs are be attracted to people because of their morale values and cultivations. I personally find that beauty does not last. The only thing that is lasting is personal virtues and cultivations. Be each others source of inspirations and motivations to push on in personal growth. That support for each other I believe might even endure past this life into next. After all, two are linked by their karmic affinity.

Something I observe recently. Lovers tend to be motivated by lust and momentary desires which I feel will lead to more pain and sorrows. After all pain arises from love when one fails to get what they want. Its just a show of immaturity and lack of self restraint.

"Love are what that binds us from this cyclic Samsara and I believe love will also free us from Samsara."

True Love = 慈(Loving Kindness, Metta) + 悲(Compassion, Karuna) + 喜( Appreciative Joy, Mudita) + 舍(Equanimity, Upekka)