非常相信“心想事成”这句话。
这几天所听到，看到的让我有新的体会与想法。
一位成功的行销员与一般行销员的分别在于前者赚钱比较快又多。
原因在于成功的行销员利用研讨会的形式演说。一开口，好几个人在听。
一般行销员不管说的多尽力都只能有一对一的沟通。
多么成功的“一般行销员” 在一时间内也只能赚一个人的钱。
有时我会想，如果那个人不跟我买，或许就给人说去了。
有好几个地方要改善的！而且要快！
最基本的就是要把语言搞好！在来我发现我其实对品牌与产品都没有真知正见！
需要精进。还有就是需要很多行家的实战经验。
就算我的品牌多好质地多可靠，在买的人在挑的人非常难断定。
我想我也只能在能控制的范围勤加努力吧。
Wednesday, October 29, 2008
Saturday, October 25, 2008
Sangha
Sangha if not wrong is from the Pali word that means community. In current buddhist context, people tends to recognise Sangha as the monastic. But I would say its a very laid back and selfish perspective. As from many reliable source Sangha in fact includes lay person, non monastic.
It is not hard to find instances in the Sutta Pitaka where the role of the lay person rather important in the work of Dharma propagation. Anathapindika, a famous lay disciples of Buddha , bought over the Jeta grove and thus facilitated Dharma propagation.
I find that in today's context, lay person's job is very important in complimenting the work of the monastic. Having said that, I am not saying that the strength of monastic is limited or we lay-person could do things thats against the Vinaya.
Most non buddhist or even buddhist tends to distance themselves from the monastic just because of respect. Monastic are sometimes seen as "masters" and should only be treated with bows. Although its definitely not true but that's what most people that are not frequent temple goers will feel.
Lay-person will fit in well. I had did some study in various propagation group be it buddhist or non, the trend is the more lay-person at work the propagation is faster but the ideology sometimes are unagreeable. This reflect well in christian groups (esp City Harvest) as well as the unorthordox buddhist group "Sokka".
The Sangha should operates in whole, hand in hand. To me Dharma propagation is something like a life purpose to me. I do confess I have the thought to join the monastics. But whats holding me back first of all is I do know I have some attachments to clear. And the next important issue is the importance of the role of the lay-person. There is indeed a lot of work for me to do in this aspect!!
It is not hard to find instances in the Sutta Pitaka where the role of the lay person rather important in the work of Dharma propagation. Anathapindika, a famous lay disciples of Buddha , bought over the Jeta grove and thus facilitated Dharma propagation.
I find that in today's context, lay person's job is very important in complimenting the work of the monastic. Having said that, I am not saying that the strength of monastic is limited or we lay-person could do things thats against the Vinaya.
Most non buddhist or even buddhist tends to distance themselves from the monastic just because of respect. Monastic are sometimes seen as "masters" and should only be treated with bows. Although its definitely not true but that's what most people that are not frequent temple goers will feel.
Lay-person will fit in well. I had did some study in various propagation group be it buddhist or non, the trend is the more lay-person at work the propagation is faster but the ideology sometimes are unagreeable. This reflect well in christian groups (esp City Harvest) as well as the unorthordox buddhist group "Sokka".
The Sangha should operates in whole, hand in hand. To me Dharma propagation is something like a life purpose to me. I do confess I have the thought to join the monastics. But whats holding me back first of all is I do know I have some attachments to clear. And the next important issue is the importance of the role of the lay-person. There is indeed a lot of work for me to do in this aspect!!
Friday, October 24, 2008
CJ7
Manage to catch CJ7!! i noe i'm lagging....after all pple tat knows me know i don like hitting the cinema....muhahhaa. I actually don like friends seating by each other and watching the show due to practically limited interactions. But my fav past time is to derive meanings.....i suppose tats wat all directors' wish.....
Some comments tat the show is not funny and least interesting. As usual, throw all prejudice aside i watched the film. Its nice!! Its not the typical movie by stephen chow. Don perceive it as comedy, although there is some usual Stephen Chow's take. hahaha!!
In large it shows some social issues like the rich looking down on the poor. Child in poverty could never achieve fantastic results and so on. But major cut of the show illustrated the wants of all children. Be it rich or poor, they like toys, wants attention, good marks for exam without studying and relationship with their parents.
It also reflects a socio-family trend. Typically, the rich do not educate their children and thus the children learn by mimicking their parents ....they could be mimicking good as well as bad behaviours. For the not so well to do family, their family upbringing is tuned to building a righteous character.
I still remember how my mum always drill us with values and thoughts. I confess I would only understand a very small fraction of it then. Mainly I jus seat thru!! But I would say we are all brought up with good mindset. We don't join gangs, smoke or play truant. All credits go to my parents of course. Parents play a crucial role in upbringing of the next generation.
But sad to say the symbolic role of the parents have shifted to fillipino mates, tutors, teachers and "gangs" outside. I have a quote that I like to use. "Having the ability to have a child not having the ability to take care". I'm not sure it could be applied here but according to the 80/20 rule, 20% of the life time in learning values dictates 80% of your success in life time.
As according to "Di Zhi Gui", the initial education for children should be to inculcate values. Once the values seats strongly in their mind, all other academic knowledge will go well too!!. Knowledge without wisdom is a disaster not to oneself but to the community!!.
Some comments tat the show is not funny and least interesting. As usual, throw all prejudice aside i watched the film. Its nice!! Its not the typical movie by stephen chow. Don perceive it as comedy, although there is some usual Stephen Chow's take. hahaha!!
In large it shows some social issues like the rich looking down on the poor. Child in poverty could never achieve fantastic results and so on. But major cut of the show illustrated the wants of all children. Be it rich or poor, they like toys, wants attention, good marks for exam without studying and relationship with their parents.
It also reflects a socio-family trend. Typically, the rich do not educate their children and thus the children learn by mimicking their parents ....they could be mimicking good as well as bad behaviours. For the not so well to do family, their family upbringing is tuned to building a righteous character.
I still remember how my mum always drill us with values and thoughts. I confess I would only understand a very small fraction of it then. Mainly I jus seat thru!! But I would say we are all brought up with good mindset. We don't join gangs, smoke or play truant. All credits go to my parents of course. Parents play a crucial role in upbringing of the next generation.
But sad to say the symbolic role of the parents have shifted to fillipino mates, tutors, teachers and "gangs" outside. I have a quote that I like to use. "Having the ability to have a child not having the ability to take care". I'm not sure it could be applied here but according to the 80/20 rule, 20% of the life time in learning values dictates 80% of your success in life time.
As according to "Di Zhi Gui", the initial education for children should be to inculcate values. Once the values seats strongly in their mind, all other academic knowledge will go well too!!. Knowledge without wisdom is a disaster not to oneself but to the community!!.
Wednesday, October 22, 2008
是我非我
相信没个人在生命中都有问自己是谁。
我喜欢什么，追求的又是什么。
怎样才能快乐。
我也常问自己这些问题。
我也相信这些并非是胡思乱想。
是自我寻觅与了解的必要动作。
看过一位著名的韩国禅师的讲座。
他从头到尾都在问观众他们是谁。
用法很怪。参加者都给了很多答案。
可是禅师都没说对错。
我的见解，大家都对也都错。
“你”的定义在于自己与他人的看法吧。
每个人对自己都有不同的看法。
是好人也可以是坏人。
是聪明是愚笨。一时是孩子，不久是别人父。
自己对自己又有不同的要求。
一时要做高才生。
做工了要做有能力的员工。
结婚又要做好老公好父亲。
“我”是非有非无的。无常变化。
那为一个无常的“我”开心难过，
为一个无常的“我”找快乐与烦恼，值得吗？
我喜欢什么，追求的又是什么。
怎样才能快乐。
我也常问自己这些问题。
我也相信这些并非是胡思乱想。
是自我寻觅与了解的必要动作。
看过一位著名的韩国禅师的讲座。
他从头到尾都在问观众他们是谁。
用法很怪。参加者都给了很多答案。
可是禅师都没说对错。
我的见解，大家都对也都错。
“你”的定义在于自己与他人的看法吧。
每个人对自己都有不同的看法。
是好人也可以是坏人。
是聪明是愚笨。一时是孩子，不久是别人父。
自己对自己又有不同的要求。
一时要做高才生。
做工了要做有能力的员工。
结婚又要做好老公好父亲。
“我”是非有非无的。无常变化。
那为一个无常的“我”开心难过，
为一个无常的“我”找快乐与烦恼，值得吗？
Tuesday, October 21, 2008
Banghala worker
Watch a video on my sociology class last sat.....Basically its about a Banghala worker's experience when working in Singapore.
I do confess I have quite a lot of prejudice against them, mostly some stereo-typically role like drinking, fighting and trying to take advantage of gals in a crowd. But after the show, I do believe at least I would accept them as part of the community.
Mr Banghala reluctantly left his sick mother and wife in hometown India and came all the way to Singapore to earn a living. And beacuse of that, landed himself in huge debt to the middleman. At first when he arrives, he never smoke, drink or any other bad habits but very pious to his religion.
He began to learn how to call back home. His fellow colleague advise him to lie (as it was a norm for all their friends) to his family, saying life was good, boss cares for them and they each have a room of their own. Reason being not to worry his family back home. Then subsequently, his family needs money for healthcare as well as dowry for sister's marriage. He picked up gambling. He also have no choice but to drink and smoke since he needs to gel into that primary social circle. After all, they are the only friends he had.
Reflecting on this, I suppose most immigrant or foreigners in Singapore definitely feel this way too. Happiness but nobody to share, sorrow yet no shoulders to lean on. The longing for home and the agony and helplessness when there is bad news from home.
I had a short stay in Thailand once, I know this feeling of lost but still the feeling I believe is incomparative to them. Don't blame them if they "clog out" the whole serangoon road and little india. Its the only small space where they are near home. Reflect on ourselves, when we have a little drink, do we whisper or we shout too?? We are all the same!!.
If characteristic like skin colour, language and behaviour divide us, then our world is definitely a small and lonely one. If for now we can't befriend them, at least don't "siam" them. Nobody likes to be an outcast or feel unwelcomed especially when they are lonely overseas.
I suppose next time instead of labeling them with stereotypes, learn from them! If you can't imagine yourself leaving your home, working overseas as labourers, staying in infavourable conditions yet needing to support his home, learn from them.
I do confess I have quite a lot of prejudice against them, mostly some stereo-typically role like drinking, fighting and trying to take advantage of gals in a crowd. But after the show, I do believe at least I would accept them as part of the community.
Mr Banghala reluctantly left his sick mother and wife in hometown India and came all the way to Singapore to earn a living. And beacuse of that, landed himself in huge debt to the middleman. At first when he arrives, he never smoke, drink or any other bad habits but very pious to his religion.
He began to learn how to call back home. His fellow colleague advise him to lie (as it was a norm for all their friends) to his family, saying life was good, boss cares for them and they each have a room of their own. Reason being not to worry his family back home. Then subsequently, his family needs money for healthcare as well as dowry for sister's marriage. He picked up gambling. He also have no choice but to drink and smoke since he needs to gel into that primary social circle. After all, they are the only friends he had.
Reflecting on this, I suppose most immigrant or foreigners in Singapore definitely feel this way too. Happiness but nobody to share, sorrow yet no shoulders to lean on. The longing for home and the agony and helplessness when there is bad news from home.
I had a short stay in Thailand once, I know this feeling of lost but still the feeling I believe is incomparative to them. Don't blame them if they "clog out" the whole serangoon road and little india. Its the only small space where they are near home. Reflect on ourselves, when we have a little drink, do we whisper or we shout too?? We are all the same!!.
If characteristic like skin colour, language and behaviour divide us, then our world is definitely a small and lonely one. If for now we can't befriend them, at least don't "siam" them. Nobody likes to be an outcast or feel unwelcomed especially when they are lonely overseas.
I suppose next time instead of labeling them with stereotypes, learn from them! If you can't imagine yourself leaving your home, working overseas as labourers, staying in infavourable conditions yet needing to support his home, learn from them.
Thursday, October 16, 2008
Desires
One day a wealthy lady wish to get some necklace for her daughter's wedding. The salesman decides to show her his most valuable possessions in the shop's safe. The salesman, hoping to get the deal even offered free escort to her house making sure the jewelry land safely at the wealthy lady's house.
After seeing the jewelry and appreciating its rare beauty decided to put it down and went off.
The jewelry comparing to her fortune is nothing. But she knew that buying the jewelry will only be transferring the jewelry from the shop's safe to her own safe. So she just stop at admiring.
In our everyday chores, it is inevitable that we found something we like, beautiful and rare. But if we indulge in our sense pleasure and react to all desires, we are just mere puppets to our senses. With no self control, things go wrong and we perish. And most often, we are not the only affected person.
We all have our own sets of belief and wants. Pursuing our desires without wisdom is like a hamster running up and down the track. The only result is tired and fruitless pursue. It is not about losing interest in all mundane matters but looking at things with wisdom and decide what's to be done.
After seeing the jewelry and appreciating its rare beauty decided to put it down and went off.
The jewelry comparing to her fortune is nothing. But she knew that buying the jewelry will only be transferring the jewelry from the shop's safe to her own safe. So she just stop at admiring.
In our everyday chores, it is inevitable that we found something we like, beautiful and rare. But if we indulge in our sense pleasure and react to all desires, we are just mere puppets to our senses. With no self control, things go wrong and we perish. And most often, we are not the only affected person.
We all have our own sets of belief and wants. Pursuing our desires without wisdom is like a hamster running up and down the track. The only result is tired and fruitless pursue. It is not about losing interest in all mundane matters but looking at things with wisdom and decide what's to be done.
Saturday, October 11, 2008
纯真
在一个好友的BLOG里，他写了“单纯”。好！那我就写我对纯真的定义！
纯指的是简单而不污染的。真是对人的一种真实与不虚伪。我眼里的纯真是对人生
明明白白的了解而选择做的面对。非常幸运的，我在人生中遇到了一些有着这样性
格的人。他们就像人群中的太阳，给人快乐与欢喜。
不时中都能在他们身上学到生命的勇敢也对我做个提醒。从一个前辈学到教朋友要
找正面积极的人。的确这样的人非常吸引人。跟他们在一起每分钟都是愉快的。快
乐并非需要去哪儿或做什么，就算是闲聊都是非常愉快！无时无刻都是种享受，毫
无压力的相处，却充满期待的放松！
纯真是一个难而可贵的性格。既然有，就继续用它拥抱世界。不用改或隐藏！ 纯真
也并非孩子气！没有的人，也并非不好。不用虚假做作。那会跟丑陋。纯难而真却
一定要有。人与人的沟通不只是跟外界的沟通而是对内心的寻觅。
我始终觉得最美的并非拥有漂亮的皮囊而是真诚的心！
纯指的是简单而不污染的。真是对人的一种真实与不虚伪。我眼里的纯真是对人生
明明白白的了解而选择做的面对。非常幸运的，我在人生中遇到了一些有着这样性
格的人。他们就像人群中的太阳，给人快乐与欢喜。
不时中都能在他们身上学到生命的勇敢也对我做个提醒。从一个前辈学到教朋友要
找正面积极的人。的确这样的人非常吸引人。跟他们在一起每分钟都是愉快的。快
乐并非需要去哪儿或做什么，就算是闲聊都是非常愉快！无时无刻都是种享受，毫
无压力的相处，却充满期待的放松！
纯真是一个难而可贵的性格。既然有，就继续用它拥抱世界。不用改或隐藏！ 纯真
也并非孩子气！没有的人，也并非不好。不用虚假做作。那会跟丑陋。纯难而真却
一定要有。人与人的沟通不只是跟外界的沟通而是对内心的寻觅。
我始终觉得最美的并非拥有漂亮的皮囊而是真诚的心！
Wednesday, October 8, 2008
I'm back!!
Just back from climbing Mt Kinabaru @ Sabah, Malaysia. A very rewarding and memorable journey. All thanks to the guide, the journey was well planned and everything went smoothly. All participants were safe with only muscle strains on the leg.
Almost all reached the summit but even those that never, I am sure they gained alot from this expedition.
Participants were mostly not from FGS and were informed about the expedition through words of mouth. I was actually quite worried before the event as most of the participants were not experienced and we are rather clueless on how to prepare for it.
But from this few day, I would say its not really about the fitness of the body but the fitness of the mind that we conquer ourselves to achieve the climb. We are indeed the lucky batch as the weather was unusually fine especially during the submit climb. I would say it all thanks to the chanting sessions we had everyday.
I could still remember during the summit climb on monday morning 3am where we had to travel in complete darkness. I had almost lost my sight on the environment and the only way is to follow the mt guide's footstep closely. As I am the first few, I can only tell myself to follow closely as if not, the rest at the back might loss the way. Just lagging a few arms length back and we are not able to see each other and could only follow whatever headlamps that's in front of us.
When we have reached the peak and coming down, we were all amazed from our achievements! The journey we had travelled were actually full of hazards like pits and falls. Just losing a grip and I am sure we were be gone.
The expedition could not have been so fun and successful without the team spirit we have forged and the trust we have given for each other. The journey was also filled with laughters and I had gained alot of insights that I am sure will helped me alot for my life. Friendships were also created in just a very short span of days during the climb.
I would say the most fruitful part of the journey to me is about understanding myself. Especially in face of danger and unfavorable conditions, our characters and weakness will inevitably show. I would say since I have know the pits of my character, now its the time to work on them!
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